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Language and Communication Initiate an interaction with a peer  This resource has been viewed by a moderator.


Initiating interactions with peers.

Early years skill:Making Relationships
Early years typical range:22-36m
P-scales/Nat. Curriculum skill:PSHE and Citizenship
P-scales/Nat. Curriculum level:P6
TAP skill:Social Skills
TAP level:TAP36
Section:Early Years (0-5yrs) info; Primary (5-11yrs) info

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Activity/strategy name and materials required How to do the activity Key principles for doing the activity and comments
Can I play


1 or 2 other children

1. When your child comes to you, talk about what the other children in the playground are doing.

2. Ask your child what looks 'fun'.

3. When your child decides say to them "Let's go and join them".

4. Take your child over and encourage them to join in with your support.

5. Next time, repeat steps 1 to 4 but after you've encouraged them to join in, stand back and let them play independently.

6. Next time, repeat steps 1 and 2 and then say "Let's go and ask to join in."

7. Take the child over and encourage them to say "Can I play" and then let them play independently.

8. Next time, repeat 1-2 and then say "you go and ask 'can I play'. I'll watch from here".

The aim of this activity is to encourage your child to start initiating interactions with a peer at play time, rather than talking only to adults.

It may take your child longer to feel confident to play without your presence. Take it slowly so that your child knows you are there to support them if needed but also enable them to become more independent.

If at steps 7 and 8 your child is extremely reluctant to ask, you can break it down and get them to copy the question word for word e.g. "Child's name, say '' ".

Going on an errand together

Another child

An easy errand

Make the errands simple, which require just giving an object or a letter to another adult who is aware the child is coming.

Praise the child for asking the other child.

Give praise to both children for completing the task well.

Encourage your child to ask different children.


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