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Language and Communication Respond to contradictory emotional messages  This resource has been viewed by a moderator.


Recognise the true emotion when a speaker says something in a tone of voice that contradicts the message of what's said

Early years skill:not specified
Early years typical range:not specified
P-scales/Nat. Curriculum skill:PSHE and Citizenship
P-scales/Nat. Curriculum level:L1
TAP skill:Social Skills
TAP level:TAP60
Section:Primary (5-11yrs) info; Secondary (11-16yrs) info

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Activity/strategy name and materials required How to do the activity Key principles for doing the activity and comments
How do I really feel?

Photo emotions cards (e.g. LDA, Colorcards or from Flash-Pro) showing photos of Happy, Sad and Angry faces

1. Show the child the pictures and ask them to identify the emotion shown.

2. Help the child to think of alternative names for each emotion (e.g. angry = cross, annoyed, vexed, mad, cheesed off, in a bad temper etc. ...).

3. Put the pictures where the child can see them.

4. Say a sentence in a tone of voice that contradicts the message, e.g. "I'm fine, nothing's wrong with me" in a sad voice.

5. Ask the child to point to the right picture (or say its name) for the emotion you portray

6. Ask the child: "how did I say I was feeling?" and "How did I really feel?"

Try to keep the activity fun by moving on quickly.

Be prepared to discuss how the child is feeling if they want to.

As an alternative to pointing, put the pictures in different locations in the room and ask the child to stand by the picture they select for the emotion you show.

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